Coping with the Death of a Daughter or Son?
(During the Grief and Bereavement period)
How long does Grief last?
Unfortunately, there's no answer because affects each of one us in a different way and you cannot expect even your partner,wife to understand, as theyare going thourgh the same but in a different direction.
Coping with the loss of your child, son or daughter, will take at least few years or as normal longer.There is not time scale.
Friends may think 'we should have 'got over it by six months or a year', complete nonsense, tell them.
An emotional inner happening like grief and bereavement, take time time to heal. Impossilewe to set a time for it.
However powerfull the pain initially, hang on it will lessen and able you to cope better with it. That' all
But it never goes away. Never
Remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Grief after the Loss of a Daughter or Son
There are no right or wrong reactions to the death of your child. We all need to grieve in our own way and in our own time. For some this might mean crying, for others not. For some this is likely to take months and years, for others not.
Reactions and feelings can change from hour to hour, and day to day. Some days are good while others are bad; some days you'll be up and others down again.
Being a Bereaved Parent is hell, and only another Bereaved person can understand what you are going through.
Over time the emotional swings will lessen in intensity as you learn to adapt to your changed circumstances, but to begin with it can be extremely hard and moments will seem you cannot cope and become desperate. Always think ahead as you know these moments will come, have a contact, telephone, internet, and just make sure you use it there and then.
Grief and Bereavement and you
One of the most frightening aspects of a loss can be your attitude towards daily life. As a massive gap / hole has been created inside you, and you may still have anger inside you and feel nothing is important anymore and you begin to live on a day to day basis, as you do not know How you will feel tomorrow or next week, or at any time in the future.
Take each day as it come do not worry what others think, be yourself.
Bereavement, Grief, Loss, Anger, Numbness, Shock,Disbelief,are all a normal human reaction to the event and there is very little you can do except let the pain take its course.
Even medical professionals realise that they also cannot fully help you.
Through time you will learn to handle your inner damaged feelings better
Just that and possible no more.